GASTONIA — Clergy of the Diocese of Charlotte have a powerhouse of prayer in the growing community of the Daughters of the Virgin Mother.
The community, formed by Sister Mary Raphael and approved by Bishop Peter Jugis in 2015, attends to the practical and spiritual needs of men preparing for the priesthood, as well as those already ordained.
The community now includes two novices: Sister Mary Elizabeth and Sister Mary Veronica. A postulant, Taylor Marie Halbig, joined the community eight months ago.
That growth prompted the Daughters to search for a permanent home, and through the generosity of donors, they bought a small home on Belvedere Avenue in Gastonia last August.
Pictured: The Daughters of the Virgin Mother attended the land blessing for St. Joseph College Seminary Oct. 22 in Belmont. Pictured are (from left) Father Matthew Kauth, seminary rector; Bishop Peter Jugis; Sister Mary Raphael; Sister Mary Elizabeth; Sister Mary Veronica; and Taylor Marie Halbig, a postulant. (SueAnn Howell | Catholic News Herald)
The group’s charism and mission are in response to a 2007 appeal issued by the Congregation for the Clergy to spur a movement of prayer in the Church intended to encourage priestly vocations as well as unite priestly vocations to the support of spiritual maternity, particularly on the part of consecrated women religious.
Through much prayer, spiritual direction and discernment, Sister Mary Raphael – who spent many years discerning religious life cloistered as a Poor Clare of Perpetual Adoration – heard the call to form the community to provide care for bishops, priests and seminarians under the patronage of Our Lady, Mother of the Eternal High Priest, and of St. John Paul II.
“Feeling a call to respond to that initiation, over the course of years I sought spiritual direction,” Sister Mary Raphael says. “What evolved was this rule of life that says how consecrated women religious of the Diocese of Charlotte can respond to this call.
“I think that’s an important aspect. Just as a young man feels called to a diocese, a local Church, I also felt called to a local Church. This rule is written for sisters in the Diocese of Charlotte.”
The community’s rule of life centers on living in imitation of the Blessed Virgin Mary through their consecrated life, spiritual motherhood and prayerful penance, Sister Mary Raphael says. They strive to be visible reminders and witnesses of the relationship between Christ the High Priest and His bride, the Church.
Their rule revolves around Calvary and the priest as both priest and victim, she explains. “If the priest is the alter Christus, called to stay on the Cross, then you have Our Lady at the foot of the Cross. The consecrated religious woman is meant to imitate her.
“You have Christ the High Priest offering the sacrifice. Like Our Lady, we want to say to the priest, ‘Stay on the Cross where you belong.’ Why do I have the audacity to say that? Because I promise to stay on Calvary, too.”
The community strives to encourage seminarians of the diocese through prayer and practical help where possible.
The Daughters wear a habit carefully selected to reflect their Marian charism. The main part of the habit is white, signifying Our Lady’s purity and their call to chastity. The tichel, or head piece, is also white and resembles what Our Lady would have worn. The veil is a deep, midnight Marian blue, as is the fascia (a long sash worn around the waist).
“The Daughters also wear a medal of the Sacred and Immaculate Hearts. It is in and through Cor ad Cor – the pierced and Sacred Heart of Jesus and the pierced and Immaculate Heart of Mary – that the members of the Daughters are formed in the charism to which they are called,” Sister Mary Raphael explains. “Meditating upon and growing in devotion to the Two Hearts impels each Sister towards greater love and unreserved self-giving.”
As part of their initial training in the postulancy and the novitiate, the Daughters assist mothers and children at the MiraVia residential home at Belmont Abbey College by preparing meals, assisting with child care and providing love and emotional support.
Sister Mary Raphael also prepares meals four days a week for the 16 men studying at St. Joseph College Seminary. After the sisters make their first profession, they too will assist in the practical needs of the college seminary, currently located adjacent to St. Ann Church in Charlotte.
Sister Mary Raphael notes that while living as visible witnesses, the Daughters do so in recognition that a woman most profoundly gives of herself through the veiled mystery of silence, hiddenness and gentle availability.
“She watches for the needs around her, but does not forcefully impose herself on them. Always ready to respond in joyful evangelical availability and humble readiness to assist in the needs of the priests and seminarians, she also is docile to the powerful surrender that gave Our Lady the grace and courage to say, ‘Do whatever He tells you’ (John 2:5).”
— SueAnn Howell, senior reporter. Daughters of the Virgin Mother contributed.
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At www.daughtersofthevirginmother.com: Get more information on the Daughters of the Virgin Mother or offer financial assistance to help them pay off their mortgage and provide practical support to the priests and seminarians of the Diocese of Charlotte. Donations may also be mailed to: Daughters of the Virgin Mother, Our Lady of Loreto Convent, 1112 S. Belvedere Ave., Gastonia, NC, 28054. Questions? Email Sister Mary Raphael at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..
Photo by Giuliana Polinari RileyRUTHERFORDTON — The Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Peace have a new home. They are settling into their Queen of Peace Monastery, a home which sits on seven acres on a hilltop near some of North Carolina’s well-known sites like Mt. Mitchell and Grandfather Mountain.
The Benedictine community was founded in 2003 by Sister Gertrude Gillette and the late Sister Teresa Scheuren. It includes Sister Scholastica Auguste, originally from the Caribbean island of St. Lucia, and a postulant, Jennifer Walker, who joined them in October.
They are known for living out the monastic schedule of praying the Divine Office, attending Mass, practicing Lectio Divina and spending time in Eucharistic Adoration. Benedictines devote themselves to community prayer and private prayer (such as the rosary) and observing monastic silence, speaking only when necessary during the day. Informal conversation is reserved for recreation after dinner.
“Our name shows our deep ties to both the Benedictine tradition and to Our Lady,” Sister Gertrude says. “Most visitors to Benedictine monasteries are immediately struck by the deep peace which embraces them when they arrive. And indeed, peace (‘pax’) has always been one of the trademarks of monasteries down the centuries.”
Sister Gertrude notes that the past few centuries have seen an increasing number of apparitions of Our Lady where she has been concerned for peace, continually asking her children to pray for peace in the world.
“This call for peace is very needed in our world today. So we dedicate our way of life to Our Lady and St. Benedict so that as patrons and promoters of peace, they might intercede to bring about peace in our hearts, our families and communities, our country and our world.”
“There is so much peace here!” she adds, referring to the monastery’s remote location and beautiful vistas from its porches. Sister Gertrude says the monastery will have guest rooms available in the future for retreatants, as they continue to update their facility. Their property is fully fenced with five enclosures for animals, a chicken coop and a new barn. They hope to raise poultry and livestock.
Right now, one of their greatest needs is for a heating system in their chapel, which can only be accessed via an exterior door on the lower level of the monastery.
“We’re bundling up in coats, but it is getting colder now,” Sister Gertrude says. They hope a space heater helps a bit during the winter months until they can afford a proper heating system for the lower level of the monastery.
In the meantime, they have just broken ground for a new chapel adjacent to the monastery.
They are members of Immaculate Conception Church in Forest City. Father Herbert Burke, pastor, has welcomed them and parishioners have come out to help them with projects on the property. Many have also come out for the First Saturday Devotions at the monastery.
“We are blessed to have this monastery. Blessed to be here in this community. The people at Immaculate Conception Parish have been wonderful to us,” Sister Gertrude says.
— SueAnn Howell, senior reporter
For more information
The Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Peace welcome visitors, retreatants and others who would like to join them for prayer.
For details about the community and scheduled prayer times, or to make a tax-deductible donation to the Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Peace, go to www.qopbenedictines.com. Donations may also be mailed to: 687 Moss Road, Rutherfordton, NC 28139.
Questions? Call Sister Gertrude Gillette at 704-827-2490.
Photo by Giuliana Polinari Riley
Photo by Giuliana Polinari Riley
The Solemnity of Christmas this year occurs on a Monday, and a question has arisen as to whether Catholics are obliged to participate in Holy Mass for the Fourth Sunday of Advent, and then participate again in another Mass for the Solemnity of Christmas.
Are two separate Masses required? The answer to that question is yes: Catholics are obliged to participate in Holy Mass for the Fourth Sunday of Advent, and also participate in another Mass for the Solemnity of Christmas.
Since the Fourth Sunday of Advent and the Solemnity of Christmas are two separate obligations, participation in two separate Masses is required to fulfill both obligations. Participation in only one Mass will not fulfill both obligations.
It is a great witness to our love for the Lord and our love for our faith to be present at the offering of Mass on the high holy days of Advent and Christmas. This truly is a blessed time of the year for us.
On Jan. 1 we have the Solemnity of Mary, Mother of God. While Catholics are not obliged to participate in Holy Mass on Jan. 1 this year, we are nevertheless encouraged to attend Mass to honor the patroness of our diocese and ask for her prayers.
Let us joyfully celebrate the opportunities that God gives us to honor the true reason for the season: Jesus Christ our Savior!
— Bishop Peter Jugis is the Bishop of Charlotte.
CHARLOTTE — During a Mass offered Sept. 30 at St. Thomas Aquinas Church, Mark Dorsett and Matthew Dimock of St. Ann Parish and Sylvia Haddar of St. Matthew Parish were received as candidates in the Fraternal Order of Lay Dominicans, advancing from an initial inquiry year to begin the second year of a five-year formation program.
Also, Vicki Baptista and Mitzi Fields of St. Thomas Aquinas Parish and Steven J.R. Richardson of St. Ann Parish advanced from candidate status by making a three-year temporary promise in the order.
By making a perpetual promise, Sandra Coughlin of St. Luke Parish in Mint Hill marked her completion of the five-year program and initiated her lifetime commitment as the fifth perpetual member of Our Lady of Perpetual Help Lay Dominican Group.
Father Matthew Kauth, spiritual advisor of the group and a member of the Dominican Priestly Fraternity, celebrated the Mass Sept. 30, the feast of St. Jerome. Group President Tom Mathis of St. Ann Parish and Vice President Dan Lucero of St. Matthew Parish welcomed the eight advancements.
The Charlotte Lay Dominican Group, founded in 2009 by Mary Snow and the late Dr. Jeanne Hicks, is affiliated with the Southern Province of St. Martin de Porres, one of four Dominican provinces in the United States. With five perpetual promised members, the group can now apply for advancement in the province to chapter status.
The Dominicans were founded in 1216 by St. Dominic Guzman. Today the Dominican family in the U.S. includes four provinces of friars, 18 monasteries of contemplative nuns, more than 30 congregations of sisters of apostolic life and approximately 6,000 Dominican laity (formerly called the Third Order).
Practicing Catholics over the age of 18 who wish to learn more about the Dominican family are welcome to attend inquiry classes, offered at 8 a.m. on the fourth Saturday of each month at St. Thomas Aquinas Parish, located at 1400 Suther Road in Charlotte.
— Photo provided by Sandra W. Coughlin
CHARLOTTE — After the hectic start-of-school rush of early fall, 120 mothers visibly relaxed as they entered the doors for the Mothering with Grace Conference hosted at St. Ann Church Nov. 4.
For the past four years, this national, small-group ministry for moms has welcomed women of all ages to North Carolina for a day of prayer, inspiration and connection.
Mothering with Grace was founded in 2008 by Jessica Ferrante and several friends as a way to help busy moms pray and study Scripture together. Two groups gather monthly in the Diocese of Charlotte, at St. Thomas Aquinas and St. Mark churches, and more meet around the country.
This year’s conference began with a reflection by Ann Winkle. An active member of St. Mark Church in Huntersville, Winkle also founded Mary’s WAY ministry. She spoke of the heroic example of her mom through severe illness and daily struggles. She encouraged the women to “thank God with the same intensity that we beg Him” and to remember to “take the Blessed Mother with you” throughout their day.
Pictured: Keynote speaker Sonja Corbitt addresses attendees of the Mothering with Grace Conference held Nov. 4 at St. Ann Church in Charlotte. (Photos provided by Cyrus Burroughs with Bluebird Studio)
Father Matthew Kauth led the women in reflections during a beautiful Holy Hour and a quiet morning Mass. He spoke about motherhood as a profound participation in the work of grace which restores brokenness in our world and becomes “a new creation.” Father Kauth also reflected on the virtue of fortitude and explained how women need to support their children when they come face to face with crosses. Fear of suffering will not lead families to Christ, he said.
The afternoon was filled with laughter and empathetic nods as the keynote speaker, Sonja Corbitt, took the stage. A spunky Carolina native and Baptist convert, Sonja is now a popular Catholic author and radio host. Her energetic honesty about toxic relationships, difficulties in prayer, and anger management drew in her audience. And her practical insights into Scripture prompted moms to scribble notes in the corners of their Bible pages for further reflection.
Sarah Daniels (clinical supervisor at Bluebird Studio), Maggie Malcolm (conference chair), and Madeline Burroughs (owner and director of Bluebird Studio, this year’s main conference sponsor).As moms explored their generous swag bags, sipped coffee and unwrapped chocolates, mingled with fellow mothers and shopped with Catholic vendors, they clearly felt spoiled and refreshed by their mini-retreat.
Rosa Braden is a mother of three young children with another due soon. She carpooled with friends two hours from Elon to attend the Mothering with Grace Conference for the first time. She said, “The conference was a wonderful break from my busy work as a stay at home mother, spiritually, emotionally and physically! Mothers giving and receiving ideas on practical and spiritual matters as well as simply sharing similar struggles can be very encouraging.”
For more information about the Mothering with Grace ministry or conferences, visit motheringwithgrace.org.
— Kelly Henson, correspondent