CLEMMONS — Father Brian Joseph Cook died peacefully on Saturday, Nov. 18, 2023, in his beloved “ Clemmons Cabin,” surrounded by loving friends. He was 67 and had served as a priest for nearly 38 years.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at Holy Family Catholic Church in Clemmons at noon Wednesday, Nov. 29, 2023, preceded by a viewing from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. in the parish’s Holy Spirit Chapel. A committal service date at Mount Saint Mary’s Seminary in Emmitsburg, Maryland, is to be determined.
Father Cook was born the youngest of six children on May 16, 1956, to John Bernard and Elizabeth Stanley Cook and raised in the Washington, D.C., area. He graduated from Gonzaga College High School, Marquette University, and Mount Saint Mary’s Seminary in Emmitsburg, Md. While growing up in Takoma Park, Md., he met a young parish priest who was later to become the third Bishop of the Diocese of Charlotte: William G. Curlin. Then-Father Curlin had a profound influence on the young boy’s life, inspiring him to later become a priest.
He was ordained by Cardinal James Hickey on Dec. 7, 1985, for the Archdiocese of Washington, D.C. Then-Monsignor Curlin preached at his first Mass the following day. Father Cook recounted the homily in a 2020 interview with the Catholic News Herald: “He looked out at the congregation and said, ‘Father, there is your family. Love your people. If you love your people, they will do anything for the Church and they will do anything for you. If you do not love your people, they will not cross the street to say hello.’ That has always stuck with me. Certainly in my ministry I have tried to love whatever congregation I am serving.”
Father Cook devoted much of his life to working with the sick, first in healthcare and later as a priest. In the Washington area he worked as a paramedic, then later in respiratory therapy in a hospital, and then ministering as a priest to the sick and dying in hospitals, nursing homes and hospice facilities.
He served in several parishes in the Washington Archdiocese, yet among his most treasured assignments was assisting then-Monsignor Curlin at Gift of Peace, Mother Teresa and the Missionaries of Charity’s home for people dying of AIDS. At that time, there was no treatment for the disease, and his experience there had a lasting impact on him.
He considered ministry to the sick and dying among his most important work as a priest, and later in life, that experience gave him a new appreciation as he began suffering health problems himself. “When the tables are turned and it is you in the hospital bed and you see the smiling face of a priest, a deacon or a Eucharistic minister coming around the corner to bring you the gift of the Eucharist or provide the anointing of the sick, I can’t tell you what power that sacrament has,” he said.
After Bishop Curlin was appointed Bishop of Charlotte, he invited Father Cook in 2002 to serve as parochial vicar of Holy Family Catholic Parish in Clemmons. In 2007, Father Cook was appointed pastor of St. Leo the Great Catholic Parish in Winston-Salem by Bishop Peter J. Jugis. Father Cook also served on the Board of Directors for Catholic Charities
Diocese of Charlotte. He retired from active ministry in 2020.
Father Cook enjoyed all aspects of ministry, but he most treasured his time instructing the students of St. Leo Catholic School during Friday Masses, offering guidance to those in crisis, and ministering to the sick and dying at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center.
A passionate outdoorsman, he loved annual trips to Wyoming and Montana for hikes, fly fishing lessons on the Yellowstone River and long walks at Tanglewood Park with his beloved dogs Abigail, Marigold, Daisy and Gracie Mae. He loved all Washington, D.C., and Maryland college and professional sports, was a lifelong student of United States history, and was a voracious reader.
In his final days, Father Cook sent a message of hope and uplift to family and friends:
“Whether I have had the privilege of knowing and loving you for many years as either family or friends, please know how wonderful it has been to share this journey with you. I trust implicitly in God’s love and mercy and believe that it is present for both you and me. St Therese told us that she would spend her heaven doing good on earth, I pray that I will have the same opportunity to do so for you who have been so good to me. Please know that I carry you and yours in my heart and in my prayers.”
Father Cook was preceded in death by his parents, John Bernard and Elizabeth Stanley Cook; and his sisters, Sister Catherine Cook of the Poor Clares and Mary Anne Clancy.
He is survived by his siblings James (Rita) Cook, Carolyn (Kevin) O’Brien and Thomas (Carol) Cook; several nieces and nephews; and the hundreds of friends, parishioners, and patients to whom he loved and ministered.
Father Cook’s family and friends wish to thank the doctors and nurses of Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center, under the extraordinary guidance and management of Dr. Francis X. O’Brien, for their 16-year commitment of care of Father Cook. Dr. O’Brien created, coordinated and monitored a complex healthcare plan which allowed for an exceptional quality of life. May God bless and reward you all.
Salem Funeral and Cremation Services in Winston-Salem is in charge of the arrangements.
— Catholic News Herald. Photos courtesy of St. Leo the Great Parish and School, and FaithHealth at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center.
PHILADELPHIA — Sister Eileen McLoughlin, professed with the Missionary Servants of the Most Blessed Trinity, passed away peacefully on Sunday, Nov. 12, 2023. She was 94.
A Rosary will be recited at 4:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 16, followed by a wake at 6:30 p.m. Her funeral Mass will be celebrated at 9 a.m. Friday, Nov. 17. All liturgies will be held at the Missionary Servants of the Most Blessed Trinity Motherhouse in Philadelphia.
A memorial Mass will be offered at 1 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 30, 2023, at St. Matthew Church, 8015 Ballantyne Commons Pkwy. in Charlotte (main church).
She was born Eileen Catherine McLoughlin to John and Elizabeth Fanning McLoughlin on July 30, 1929, in Jersey City, N.J.
She entered the Missionary Servants of the Most Blessed Trinity on Aug. 5, 1950, and initially took the name “Sister Ignatius Eileen.” She professed her final vows on March 25, 1955.
During her 70 years as a consecrated religious, Sister Eileen served in Bethany, Okla.; Harrisburg, Philadelphia and Greensburg, Pa.; Mobile, Ala.; Lorain, Ohio; Stirling, N.J.; and Charlotte.
Her first mission was to St. Joseph’s Orphanage in Oklahoma, where she and 10 other sisters took care of more than 140 children.
Later she served in Alabama, where she opened a free seasonal daycare for migrant children after she learned of an infant’s death from heat exposure while the mother worked in the potato fields. The program, staffed by volunteers, lasted for more than 20 years.
In 1987 she began her ministry in the Diocese of Charlotte, working as a drug/alcohol counselor for Catholic Social Services (now Catholic Charities Diocese of Charlotte) and then at St. Matthew Parish in Charlotte.
For more than 30 years, she counseled people in need – alcoholics, addicts, people grieving the loss of a loved one, and many others desperately searching for help – sharing the healing power of hope and the message that God loves them.
After 20 years of diocesan service, and serving three years in Philadelphia, she founded the counseling services office in 2006 at St. Matthew Parish. There she established 12-step programs including Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous as well as Alateen, Co-dependents Anonymous and Food Addicts in Recovery, among other efforts.
In 2018, she retired and moved back to the Missionary Servants of the Most Blessed Trinity Motherhouse in Philadelphia, where she continued to serve as a volunteer counselor to the Sisters at Wesley Enhanced Living.
— Catholic News Herald
Read more about Sister Eileen: Sister Eileen McLoughlin retires after 31 years of ministry in the diocese
TIRUCHIRAPPALLI, Tamil Nadu, India — Father Francis Xavier Arockiasamy, who formerly served in Highlands and Greensboro, passed away recently in Tiruchirappalli, Tamil Nadu, India. He was 58.
A funeral Mass was offered Sept. 28, 2023, at St. Mary's Cathedral in Tiruchirappalli, followed by cremation.
Father Arockiasamy was ordained on May 7, 2000, for the Diocese of Tiruchirapalli in Tamil Nadu, India. In the Diocese of Charlotte, he served as chaplain of Bishop McGuinness High School in Kernersville from 2013 to 2014. In July 2014, he was assigned as parochial administrator of Our Lady of the Mountains in Highlands and St. Jude in Sapphire, until June 2018 when he returned to India.
— Catholic News Herald
HUNTERSVILLE — Monsignor Richard Bellow, a retired priest of the Diocese of Charlotte known for his love of the Eucharist, passed away peacefully Monday, Nov. 13, 2023. He was 80 years old, and he had served in priestly ministry for 53 years.
Funeral arrangements are pending.
Before retiring in 2013, Monsignor Bellow served for nine years as pastor of St. Mark Parish in Huntersville, where he helped guide the construction of a new church building that was dedicated in 2009, fulfilling a long-standing dream for parishioners in Huntersville. Also under his leadership, Perpetual Eucharistic Adoration was inaugurated at the parish in 2011, and the Adoration Chapel was later renamed in his honor.
“If God wants me to be remembered for one thing, that’s what I want to be remembered for: being the pastor here when God did this good work in us,” he told the Catholic News Herald in 2013.
Most recently, St. Mark Parish honored its former pastor by naming a prayer garden in his honor. He was also present for St. Mark School’s 20th anniversary celebrations in October.
He was born on Aug. 11, 1943, in the Bronx, New York, the son of the late Samuel and Antoinette (Bica) Bellow. He received his education from St. Francis Seminary, Staten Island, N.Y.; St. Hyacinth College & Seminary, Granby, Mass.; and the University of Notre Dame, where he earned a master’s degree in psychology.
Ordained on May 30, 1970, Monsignor Bellow began his ministry as a Franciscan priest, teaching religion at a Catholic high school in Pittsburgh and serving at parishes in New Jersey and upstate New York before serving as director of St. Francis Seminary in Staten Island, N.Y. Then in 1987, he made the move to the Diocese of Charlotte, to be closer to his ailing mother. His first assignment in the diocese was as pastor of St. John Neumann Parish in Charlotte.
After 10 years, he moved to serve alongside Father Edward Sheridan at St. Gabriel Parish in Charlotte – one of the largest parishes in the diocese – before he was assigned to the growing St. Mark Parish community. Many of the sacred items that adorn the sanctuary of the Huntersville church are from the Franciscan seminary where Monsignor Bellow had received his formation.
He was known as “Father Richard” to many – that is, until 2002, when on the Feast of St. Francis, Oct. 4, then-Bishop William Curlin conferred on him the title of “Chaplain of His Holiness.” This title of distinction, given by the pope in recognition of a priest’s service to the Church, enables a cleric to be called “Monsignor.”
Monsignor Bellow was also known for staying active in his retirement, even serving as the dean of St. Mark School for some of those years. Until his passing, he offered Mass most every Saturday for Catholic residents of Arbor Ridge, the senior living community in Huntersville where he lived. He also offered Mass on Sundays at Williams Place in Davidson, lending a listening ear to those who needed it. When residents at Arbor Ridge died, he made sure to attend the funeral or memorial services – for Catholics and non-Catholics alike.
In his later years, Monsignor Bellow said he enjoyed having ample time to celebrate Mass, pray, think and meditate. He was a vocal promoter of vocations and supporter of retired priests, and he was the featured cleric on the diocese’s 2023 Priest Retirement Collection poster. His 53 years as a priest and the time he spent directing St. Francis Seminary shaped this mission for him in his later years, he said in a September 2023 interview with the Catholic News Herald.
“We still have a task to do as retired priests,” he said. “That is to pray every day to continue to bless this stage of our vocation, to bless all those who have taken our place and to pray in a special way for those who will take not only our place but their place as well. Vocations to the priesthood – that’s the most vital thing we have in the diocese.”
In addition to his parents, he was preceded in death by his brothers Jerome and Robert.
Surviving family members include his nephew, Robert Bellow Jr., and cousins: Joseph and Marie Scandariato Sr., Josephine (Bica) and Dr. Matthew Genovese, Josephine (Bica) Ricciuti and her sisters Theresa and Elizabeth, Marguerite (Bica) and Joseph Marino, and Carolyn (Bica) and Tom Larson. Also surviving is his cousin John J. Cerullo Sr., his confidante for most of his adult life.
Monsignor Bellow officiated or assisted at almost every marriage, christening and burial that occurred in three generations of his family since his ordination 53 years ago. He was a loving, devoted and key figure in all the events of his extended family.
Carolina Funeral Service & Cremation Center of Charlotte is in charge of the arrangements.
— Catholic News Herald. Photos by Troy Hull, Amy Burger, and provided by St. Mark School.
Read more about Msgr. Bellow and his legacy from the Catholic News Herald archives:
- Msgr. Bellow looks back at his 50th anniversary
- New altar dedicated at St. Mark School
- St. Mark Adoration Chapel redesigned ‘for glory and honor of God’
WILMINGTON, Del. — Oblates of St. Francis de Sales Father Joseph E. Tustin, who previously served in parishes in Asheboro and Kernersville, passed away earlier this year. He died March 8, 2023, in his 64th year of religious life as a professed member of the Wilmington-Philadelphia Province of the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales.
A Mass of Christian Burial was offered March 13, 2023, at Our Lady of Light Chapel in Childs, Md. Interment followed at the Oblate Cemetery.
He was born in Philadelphia in 1939, the son of Joseph Frank Tustin and Harriet Gutowski Tustin. After graduating from Northeast Catholic High School in Philadelphia in 1957, he entered the Oblates of St. Francis de Sales and professed first vows on Aug. 21, 1959. He made perpetual profession on Sept. 30, 1962, and was ordained a priest on Oct. 21, 1967. He earned a Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy from the Catholic University of America in Washington, D.C., and a Master of Theology from De Sales School of Theology in Washington, D.C.
Over the years, he served on the faculty of Father Judge High School and Northeast Catholic High School in Philadelphia, Pa., on the staff of Villa Maria Retreat House in Wernersville, Pa., and as pastor of St. Richard Parish in Mannheim, Pa.
In North Carolina, he served at St. Joseph Parish in Asheboro, Holy Cross Parish in Kernersville, and St. Mary Parish in Goldsboro.
Upon retirement, Father Tustin ministered at Resurrection of Our Lord Parish in Philadelphia.
He was preceded in death by his parents as well as his sisters, Mary Hypes and Patricia (Billy) Jacobs as well as his brothers, George Tustin and Michael Tustin. He is survived by many nieces and nephews.
In memory of his life and legacy, donations may be made to the Oblate Development Fund, P.O. Box 87, Childs, MD 21916-0087.
— Catholic News Herald